Tonight I’m watching the last episode of Boston Legal.
The show brings to light many real topics. I enjoy hearing both sides to many REAL topics that effect us and our world in daily life. It’s a show that makes you think.
I enjoy watching actors who are not young teeny boppers or twenty somethings. As someone who is approaching 50, I enjoy watching actors who are in their 50’s, 60’s and 70’s being vibrant, active members of society. It shows me that we don’t curl up and die and disappear when we get over a certain age.
I am encouraged when I see how beautiful Candace Bergen is and it makes me feel, as a woman, that I can be attractive and have a career that goes beyond being young.
I’ve heard that Lipstick Jungle didn’t get renewed either. Guess 40 something women don’t do anything for the younger audience that network television is going after either.
I don’t know what I’m going to do now. I don’t think there are any shows that cater to my demographic.
Time to stop watching network television? No, I’ll still watch my favorites like Grey’s Annatomy and Desparate Housewives (hey, there’s still a show with women over 40! Yay!).
I love it that Madonna is still rocking it at 50. Cher and Tina Turner give me hope. I know many women in their late 50’s and 60’s who are vibrant, active, beautiful women.
I’m so gonna miss Boston Legal. I can’t for the life of me figure out why it was cancelled. It was one of the BEST shows on network television.
I went for a haircut yesterday and there was a BIG MISCOMMUNICATION with the stylist and I ended up with a buzz cut. I have less than a centimeter of hair all over and on top it sticks straight up looks like a bird. I have about an inch of hair on the top.
The stylist kept gushing about how CUTE this looked on me, and I was TOO fucking polite not to cry right then and there. Even Brad was shocked but he didn’t say anything because I didn’t say anything. Then he was pissed because he said he would not have paid for it and he wanted to go back and complain and get his money back. It was only a $9.99 cut. I don’t care about the money. If they can’t give me my hair back, then there’s nothing to rectify the situation.
So, I have cried and I feel so UGLY and every time I walk by the mirror it is a shock.
I’m pissed at myself.
I will probably wear a hat for the next two months.
The hair cut is hideous so I don’t want to hear that it looks cute or anything about it. You don’t need to say anything.
Thank GOD my hair grows fast!
My head even feels COLD without any hair on the back. Wearing a hat isn’t just to cover up, it makes me feel like I have my hair. I look bad in the hats too but it’s better than this fucking buzz cut!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don’t understand what happened. I showed this woman a picture of how I wanted my bangs (which is NOTHING like this!) I thought she knew what she was doing and when she ran up the back of my head with the (whatever those things are called that they use on men) hedgers, and I saw all of my hair fall to the floor I went into shock. I think that is why I didn’t say how much I hated it. Then she was going on and on about how great it looked.
After leaving the salon, in shock, traumatized. I thought maybe a different color would make me look better. So I go in and pick up an auburn color. It turns out to be RED! So not only do I have a hidous hair style but it’s red. Not pretty.
This stylist does the hair for one of my friends, and does a good job. Everyone compliments my friends hair, and in fact that is how I happend to go to this stylist.
She cut my hair last time and did a good job.
What the hell happened???????
There’s nothing can be done to fix this, because I have no hair to fix.
I am traumatized enough, so PLEASE when you see me, don’t say anything about the hair.
Later we can have a good laugh but right now it’s not funny. To me anyway. Yet, I do look a fright and it is laughable. Would have made a great halloween look. Hopefully my hair will grow fast and I can do something with it soon.
Lately I’ve noticed that I have been more and more frustrated. I do tend to pick up on the energy from the people I am around and often, when mixed with my own feelings of uncertainty and/or depression I become spiritually drained.
The latest posts on my blog have been “rants” and I don’t apologize for them. I was feeling it when I wrote it so it stays. That’s why my blog is about rants, raves and redemption. If I felt the need to filter what I write, then there would be no purpose in having a blog for me. I’m not always sunshine and roses. Neither is life. It has it’s ups and downs. There are people who are a delight to be around and there are a** holes lurking about as well. If I could filter my life so that nothing bad happened, then I suppose all I would write about would be fluffy stuff. But that ain’t about to happen is it? =)
So, yes I do get murky and blue.
Could it be the weather? Could it be the economy? Have I been going through a rough time? Am I just being a bitch? Probably.
I wrote this awhile back and was afraid to publish it. Damn! This is MY blog and I can do what I want! LOL! So here it is:
Looking fresh out of the vault from the Stepford Wives.
OMG!!! LOL! I just saw a reference to the SW when I did a google search. I swear, I never heard it before I wrote the above. She IS like a STEPFORD WIFE, huh?
Where does she get that accent from? Honestly. I want to know. Why have I never heard anyone talk like that before?
During the VP debate with Joe Biden I thought both of them did well. They were civil to one another. Mainly what I got from her was energy, energy….Ahhhhh, energy….she couldn’t stop talking about “energy” every time she couldn’t answer a question. And the word “Maverick” was getting sickening to hear.
Think Sara Palin, think cliches and stereotypes. “Joe Six-Pack” and the “Soccer Mom”. Gosh darn it! Say it ain’t so, Sara. Say it ain’t so!
Are ya, goin ta wink an click yer jaw real cute for the world leaders when ya have a meetin with em to discuss nucular energy?
Update: I was perfectly pissed when I wrote this. I laugh when I look back on it. I’m not even angry at this person now and would most likely sing with her. I like her. I just needed to rant and that’s what I did. =)
There is a song… a duet that I have been singing with my best friend for years. Everybody loves it. They request it. Our voices blend in unison almost perfect pitch together.
You have asked me many times if I would sing it with you. Out of respect for my friend, I have explained that I only sing it with her. You understand and bow out graciously.
My friend, starts dating a fucktard loser and no longer comes around. I invite you to sing the song with me. The first time, it’s okay. We blend. Not like I do with her, but it’s okay.
Months pass. I get a request for the song. I invite you again to sing it with me when it is my turn to sing. I’ve waited 2 hours for my turn. I didn’t really want to do this song but it was asked of me and I oblige.
As we get ready, you turn to the KJ and ask for it to be brought down 3 keys. 3 KEYS! I gulp. WTF!!! I don’t sing that low and after all, this is MY turn and I invited YOU. Okay…. I’m going to try it. You take over and drown me out. We’re not blending. There is no harmonizing.
When it’s my verse, it’s so low. I’m singing deep. The beat is slooooow…. I see the looks on people’s faces. Something is not right. This is not my key.
Look what you did to my song.
Changing the key on a song when you are a “guest” is RUDE. You wasted my time and now I have to wait through another rotation to redeem myself.
Later I am asked by several people, “Why did she do that?” They were just as shocked as I was.
I have this terrible habit of being polite! I should have said, “NO! I don’t sing in that key.”
I don’t know why you had the nerve to do what you did. I do know this. I’ll never invite you to sing with me again.
I have been watching Congresswoman Marcy Kaptur for awhile and I like her style. She really tells it like it is and I wanted to post a couple of her speeches on here but the only one I could find was on YouTube so I’ll embed a copy. You can read more about her here.
Note: I wish they hadn’t put the part about Bush and the dictator comment at the end. I tried to find a clean copy of this speech but CSPAN didn’t have it on their site. There is one on Marcy Kaptur’s site but I don’t know how to embed it and I’m not sure of copyright restrictions.
I used to have it dialed in. I could go to the grocery store and get what was needed and stay in my budget. Almost down to the penny! I had this inner sense.
Now days, I still have the same budget but the prices on the items we need every week have sky rocketed to the point that when I go through the check out line, I’m holding my breath. Aware that I may need to put something back. Which to me is the ultimate embarrassment. But, just because the prices have increased does not mean that my pocket book has and there is only so much money to go around. So, we have had to cut back drastically on our spending. There is absolutely no dining out or going out to the movies.
My husband was laid off from the job he had been at for 6 years due to the economy and it took him almost 8 months to find another job which pays less and is almost an hour’s drive from where we live. We’re happy that he has a job, period. It pays much more than unemployment does.
I was a real estate agent for the last 15 years or so. I wasn’t a top producer but I managed to bring in enough business to buy us the extras we needed and to make life more fun. Over the last two years, business has not been good. When we had our real estate boom everybody and their brother rushed out to get a real estate license and it became increasingly difficult to compete. Not many people have been able to stay afloat in the current market as it is extremely expensive to pay for mls and NAR and other necessary expense to remain in business. If you’re not selling homes, it’s not worth it. So, I am out of a job and looking for something that offers a steady income. Me and thousands of others.
This is the worst economy that I have ever endured. Lucky for my family that I know how to cook. I can take basic staples and whip up a fabulous meal. I’m good at stretching the food budget. I always have been. But in this economy I am finding it more difficult. When I am used to buying cooking oil for $3.99 (with a buy one get one free sales special) at the store and now I have to pay $5.99 for only one, it takes a big bite out of what I have to spend on food. I’m wondering now if eating is a luxury I cannot afford.
I do tend to stock up on meat when it’s on sale. London broil is a good cut and can be cooked all kinds of ways. Chicken breasts are another favorite and go on sale often. I have not been buying fresh fruits or vegetables unless they are on sale. I think it’s time I start visiting the farmers market on the weekends. I hear you can get some great prices and the produce is much better.
As the weather starts to get chilly and we go into the winter months, hearty soups and comfort foods like chicken and dumplings, beef stew and beans and cornbread will fill our tummys.
I’ve started baking cakes from scratch. If I have flour, sugar, eggs, milk, oil, vanilla, and hershey’s cocoa, I can make a much better cake than I can by buying mixes. I have found that if I buy things like cookies or anything that is at hand, it is gone within a day or so. It’s better to have the staples and make something every now and then.
In place of a smoothy or starbucks I can make one at home using milk, crushed ice, vanilla, sugar and blend it in my blender. It satisfies the craving and can have coffee or other flavors added. Even fresh, frozen or canned fruit like peaches or strawberries makes a yummy shake. Whatever you’ve got.
In the winter I love to sip hot cocoa in the evening. I use regular hershey’s cocoa in milk. I like mine without sugar. I add a little bit of vanilla to a cup of milk and put it in the microwave then add the cocoa when it’s heated and put a handful of miniture marshmellows on top. This is better than any mix you can buy at the store. I like to zap it in the microwave after I add the marshmellows (about 10 seconds) then I stir them in and it’s sweet enough.
When I was a kid, we were very poor and my mom would make a lot of yummy foods from simple ingredients. She always said, if you’ve got your basic staples, you’re set. I’m glad I paid attention. If we wanted cookies, we made them. Candy? We made that too. I can make a mean fudge in a few minutes.
Here is a list of what I always have on hand. Notice, I don’t have a well stocked kitchen but I have some simple, basic things that I use all the time and make a variety of dishes, desserts and snacks.
Bread
Butter
Eggs
Milk
Potatos
Rice
Pasta
Tomatoes & Sauce
Meat
Dry Beans (Assorted)
I usually keep frozen Peas, Corn and Green Beans because they are inexpensive and close to fresh.
All Purpose Flour
Sugar
Brown Sugar
Confectioners Sugar
Hershey’s Cocoa
Miniture Marshmellows
Vanilla Extract (I prefer the pure extract but you can get the imitation cheap and it works okay)
Cereal (I only buy what’s on sale and has nutritional value, while I LOVE Lucky Charms, I rarely buy stuff like that. If I did, it would get eaten up as a snack. My favorites are frosted mini wheats and Kellogs (not Post) Raison Bran.)
Oatmeal
Cream of Wheat
Malto Meal
Coffee (won’t live without it)
Broth (great for adding flavor to anything from soups to sauces) I buy something called “Better Than Broth” It’s in a jar and is kept in the refrigerator after opening. I buy chicken and beef flavor.
Cornmeal
Cornstarch
Baking Powder
Baking Soda
Yeast
Garlic (always fresh)
Onions
Carrots
Celery
Peanut Butter
Strawberry Jam
Tea
Tuna
A block of Cheddar Cheese
Tortillas
Canola or Vegetable Oil
Extra Light Olive Oil
White Vinegar
Wine Vinegar
Balsamic Vinegar
Head of Lettuce
Tomatoes (When they are not too expensive or when I grow them.)
Of course, I include herbs and spices as well as condiments. Other than that, I have a pretty simple set of staples that can yield a lot of delicious dishes.
You’ll not find Hot Pockets, Toaster Strudels or any quick, instant foods at my house. We hardly ever order take out or go out to dinner anymore. For us, it’s a treat to be able to fill up the gas tank to “full”. If I cook a big meal, we eat the left overs the next night or I use them to create something else.
Sometimes I feel like those folks you see in movies who are deserted somewhere sitting around remembering their favorite food. We’re not that bad off but I do think about some of my favorite restaurants and I can’t wait till I can afford to visit them again. I miss going out to dinner…. But most of all I miss being able to afford to eat at home.
Poor Yoko! Her name has become synonimous with breaking up relationships and she was blamed for the break up of the Beatles. I lost my best friend to such a person. I had known her for several years and helped her through the loss of her husband when he died of cancer. I held her hand and hugged her when she cried, laughed with her. Loved and protected her. I thought we would be friends forever.
When “he” came along, I tried to like him. I tried. He didn’t respect our friendship or the history that we had. He belittled my place in her life as if I was just some person she ran into on occasion as some bar.
It’s true! One person can come along and ruin the energy and flow of a group. I’ve seen it happen many times.
It’s wonderful to meet that special someone. To fall in love. But remember that our friends are the ones who stand by us and are there especially when love turns sour.
We should NEVER allow a romance to take the place of the friendships that we have developed and nurtured over time. Our friends are the one constant thing that we have in life.
If a new boyfriend or girlfriend does not like our friends, that should be a big RED FLAG! We should not allow ourselves to be isolated from our one true support system. It can get lonely when all we have is one person in our life.
Friendships can be ruined. Friendships need nurturing and cannot be put on the backburner. In otherwords, you don’t call your friends ONLY when your boyfriend/girlfriend is busy and you have nothing better to do.
My friend would call me when her boyfriend was busy and then cancel if his plans changed.
When she was with me, he was calling constantly and she would be talking “baby talk” to him on her cell phone while I sat there twittling my thumbs. He didn’t like her spending time with me.
A munipulative and controlling type of person will not embrace our friends. Why? Because they can’t stand for us to show attention to anyone outside of the relationship. They are threatened and/or jealous if they are not the main focus!
Hell, they’ll think of reasons for you to get rid of your cat, your dog and your KIDS! They’ll make labels for your friends and persuade you to get rid of them too! If you have ANY friends left, they will be THEIR friends and nobody you knew before the relationship started. Then “poof” you are all alone and isolated!
Sometimes when love is new, we lose our focus of what’s happening. Just like ice cream and chocolate. It’s wonderful, but it needs to be taken in moderation. It’s the same with everything. Too often people get all schmoopie poopie goo goo ga ga and their whole world turns to shit.
I was once in a relationship with a man who wouldn’t even let me go to the bathroom by myself. I was all goo goo ga ga over him in the beginning and guess what? When we broke up, I had to load a u-haul all by myself. I had lost touch with everyone I knew and not only that… I probably made them sick with the way I fawned all over the guy in the beginning. I had no idea that several years later, I would not have a single friend to support me.
I used to go out with all of my friends
we had us some good times I never thought they would end
But then I met you and I can’t forget the day
You convinced me to settle down and change my ways
All of my frineds stopped coming around and I started dressing the way you liked
Then one day I took a look in the mirror and it was then I realized
You’re my Yoko Ono
You’re the one who makes all the rules
You’re my Yoko Ono
and I’m just your fool
I was watching the Tyra Banks show today. I’ve only watched it a couple of times but found today’s show rather interesting. The topic was on etiquette and how many of today’s folks have let it go to the way side.
One of the main focuses on the show was people with horrible table manners and how they behaved when they went out to eat in public restaurants.
Through out the show I could not stop thinking about something that happened not too long ago. Something so completely disgusting and embarrassing that I was shocked that my friend would even kiss the mouth of the guy who was putting on the show at our table when we dined out with her and her (cringe) boyfriend.
We went out to dinner at rib night at a local restaurant. It had been a long time since I got to spend anytime with my friend as she was consumed by this creep the minute she started dating him. She’s an attractive, intelligent woman with a good career yet she has a habit of picking up strays who drain her finances, self esteem and energy as they need to be taken care of and this man was no exception. Damn! I wish she would stop settling and wait for the kind of man she deserves, to come along. (But that’s a whole other story!) Back to this one….
So, we’re sitting at the table and the ribs are delivered. They also gave us an ample supply of wet napkins to keep our hands clean and prevent too much of a mess. Well this guy proceeds to grab a handful of ribs rubbing his hands all over the barbecue sauce, then rubs the sauce all over his face. His face is now not only dripping with sauce but it is stained red where some of the sauce has come off.
Every single party or server who passes our table has to hear him yell out, “Do I have something on my face?” We go through this scenario over and over and over. Passerby’s stopping to giggle at this idiot who thinks he is clever.
Now the kicker to the story is…. He also has a hugeglob of snot dripping down his nose and into his mustache. Reminded me of a two year old kid. I kept wondering if he knew. I wondered if my friend noticed. Why wasn’t she saying something? She’s sitting right next to him!!! I didn’t know if I should say something or tell him he needed to wipe his nose. Funny, in the midst of this, I’m trying to think of the polite thing to do. hahaha…. I began to laugh and giggle even though I was so grossed out I stopped eating.
I Could not even take a bite of those delicious ribs with him sitting across from me barbecue sauce stained face with snot running down his nose into his mustache. He reached across the table and grabbed a roll and put it on my plate. Then made the comment that he washed his hands. I wondered if this was some cruel joke. Was he doing this on purpose?
I had my flip video camera in my purse so I decided to film this little episode. Hell, I was done eating. He then stuck bones in his mouth and held on to bones in both hands and began to pose for me. I kept telling him that this was not a camera. He just kept posing. Yep, it’s caught on video, snot and all. Not that I’m doing anything with it. I could not believe that a grown man would act this way. I don’t even know why I filmed it. Don’t know why I sat there and laughed when I was apparently not amused. It was an odd and uncomfortable situation all together.
I don’t understand why my friend would be with someone who acts like that.
I decided after that episode of his antics, (not the first time he’s grossed me out) I was done. I’ll be polite, say hello when I run into him at social occasions and avoid him as much as possible.
"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes. I am out of control at times and hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." -- Marilyn Monroe
If by a "Liberal" they mean someone who looks ahead and not behind, someone who welcomes new ideas without rigid reactions, someone who cares about the welfare of the people — their health, their housing, their schools, their jobs, their civil rights, and their civil liberties — someone who believes we can break through the stalemate and suspicions that grip us in our policies abroad, if that is what they mean by a "Liberal," then I'm proud to say I'm a "Liberal." -- John F. Kennedy
