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Friday, September 3, 2010

Friendships

Posted by chrystibella on January 29, 2009

Author Kelly Corrigan wrote this moving essay about women’s remarkable capacity to support each other, to laugh together, and to endure. The full text is available in the paperback edition of her memoir,The Middle Place, on sale December 23, 2008.

The Middle Place

This essay reminds me of the friendships that I have developed over the years.  Growing up as a military brat, we moved about every 2 years so I was unable to develop longstanding relationships. Though I do have to point out that the bonds of the military families that I grew up with were strong.  It was that we had to leave them that was painful and many lost touch with us.  I do have a couple of friends from my childhood but not many.  It wasn’t until I lived here in the same town for the last 20 years that I have friendships that have lasted as long.

Some people have come and gone in my life.  I”ve missed them but for whatever reason our paths took a different direction.  Others have stayed as we traveled on our journey.  New friends have also emerged and brought with them a refreshing twist as I learned new things and adapted them to my lifestyle.   We have raised out kids together and we have gone through empty nest together.  Illnesses, births, deaths and so on.

I belong to a group of women friends who get together once a month just to hang out, drink wine, eat fine dishes brought by everyone.  We sometimes have a theme, sometimes we just talk but it is always a delight and I leave feeling great and the feeling lingers for a long time.  I am so grateful to be included in such fine company.

I was truly touched by the essay because it expresses my feelings in a way I could never have put into words, but it is the way my heart sings when I think of the people in my life who mean so much.

Love

Posted by chrystibella on December 28, 2008

Its in the Bible, Corinthians 13:4-7, TLB but I heard it read in a movie one time and it really struck me.

Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or selfish or rude.  Love does not demand its own way.  It is not irritable or touchy.  It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong.  It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out.

This is so true and yet, I know for a fact that I have been guilty of doing it wrong?

  • Boastful or proud (guilty)
  • Selfish or rude (guilty)
  • Demanding my own way (guilty)
  • Irritable or touchy (double guilty)
  • Holding grudges (hate to admit it, but I do that sometimes, yes…. guilty)
  • Hardly even notices when others do it wrong (oh, I notice)
  • Glad about injustice (if something bad happened to someone I loved, I would not be happy about it.)
  • Rejoices when truth wins out (I’m happy when that happens)

So basically I’ve been doing it wrong.  Yet, there are people in my life who still love me.  Wow, I sure am lucky.  =)

To the ones who make a difference.

Posted by chrystibella on August 15, 2008

This song reminds me of the people in our lives who stand by us and love us especially when we have a difficult time loving ourselves.